The girls and I love ORGANIC. So much discomfort and disease is caused by toxic substances. From our vegetables to our cleaning supplies to my nail polish, we strive to be a chemical free home.
The same way chemical-filled products are cancerous for our physical health, some relationships are toxic for our mind and our soul.
Being with a toxic person causes us to feel drained energetically, unfulfilled, worse about ourselves and sometimes even threatened or in potential danger. We feel like we have to change to make the toxic happy.
Toxic relationships are filled with drama, angst, dread, misery, illness, depression and stress. Toxic People Are:
- Takers ~ the relationship revolves around what you can do for them, how, and how often. They are controlling, demanding, selfish and self-centered.
- Pessimists ~ poor and negative outlook in life.
- Complainers ~ gossiping about what is wrong about anything and anyone all the time. Everything annoys them, bothers them and frustrates them.
- Blamers ~ dumping their frustrations on others and unable to accept personal responsibility. They are mistrusting and jealous, at times.
- Drainers ~ they are insecure, and, therefore, they say demeaning comments, put you down, criticize you, question you to feel a false sense of empowerment. They often ignore your boundaries.
I don’t consume any toxic substances but I suspect it would be the same as with toxic people: we slip under and easily and rapidly get sucked in. We don’t realize how toxic and cancerous it is for us to stay in that place of pain and unconsciousness until we are well addicted.
Saying good-bye to someone we love is a difficult choice. We usually want to “save” and “fix” the relationship even when they have hurt us and we know staying away from painful actions and situations is the best choice for us. It’s especially hard when the person we love accuses us of hating them, not offering acceptance and compassion, giving up or wanting to cast them out of our lives.
“I DEEPLY LOVE YOU, it’s THE THINGS YOU DO I CAN’T STAND”
Parenting teaches us about unconditional love. We love our children even when their behavior is NOT lovable.
It seems hard to accept that sometimes we may choose to not stay in a relationship with someone and still love them unconditionally for whomever they choose to be. It’s all a choice.
Today, I wish for us a healthy, beautiful relationship, filled with love, gratitude, passion and balance. I wish us a non-toxic, organic, green relationship where acceptance, respect and healthy debate foster freedom of expression. A relationship in which we are and feel safe, cared for, heard, supported and appreciated. I wish us organic relationships with ourselves.
Today, I wish for us to stay away from toxic people and muster up the courage to say: “You Deplete Me.”
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Wow. Good words! Thanks for posting. It helps a bit.
“You Deplete Me.” I don’t know if I’ll actually ever say that to someone, but I like it.
I’m happy, Matthew. I guarantee you things will get better. Keep the faith! xoxo