I smile big. I laugh hard. I dance and jump. I express gratitude, I am passionate and a dreamer!
Some people are completely off and confused. They think if you are smiling, laughing and thankful, then everything must be just peachy. In my experience, it works the other way around:
Passion and gratitude breed happiness!
We all experience issues, emotions and circumstances that feel everything but pleasant. That is inevitable. It is not about ignoring those and thinking you can just put a band-aid on them. I recently went through a time in which I just cried non-stop for a few days. It isn’t healthy to try and pretend the pain is not there. It is real.
The key is to grieve and move on.
In the Dominican Republic, when someone dies, people mourn for 9 days and then have a religious ceremony to pretty much celebrate their lives and express any last emotions or get the pain out. For 9 days you wear black (maybe a hint of gray and white here and there) and you do not dance, sing or even laugh out loud. “There is a time for everything under the sun.”
Mourning is important and I have seen the value of it when I have lost something or someone. It’s not that you don’t feel the pain anymore, it’s paying your dues and knowing you are done and it’s time to move on. It hurts, it takes time, it requires discipline, willpower and self-control… but it is worth it. Don’t dwell on the pain and choose to be happy in spite of it.
They say “the happiest people on Earth are not those who have the best of everything but those who make the best of everything.” I wholeheartedly believe that: Happiness Is A Choice.
I choose to smile, to laugh, to enjoy the meaningful moments and to have gratitude for what I have. Do YOU?
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Known worldwide as "The Positive MOM", Elayna Fernandez - Bare is a bestselling author, international keynote speaker, and award-winning entrepreneurial Success Guide.
